Our family has a very personal Ebenezer. Ebenezer. It certainly isn’t a common word in contemporary language. Every time I try to type “Ebenezer” into my phone, predictive text wants to change the word to Ebook, which is further proof that it is uncommon terminology. Perhaps the word first brings to mind the famous book, […]

Grief is unpredictable and I’m often surprised by the things that tip me into a sea of sorrow. So many thoughtful friends and family often check to see “how are you doing today?” I appreciate the addition of a concrete time frame. It’s far more manageable to express how I’m doing today than in general […]

Suffering cuts through the pretense and gets to the heart of the matter. A few weeks ago, I drove to the cemetery alone. The headstone had not yet been installed and I had purchased flowers from the grocery store to lay at the graveside, just to mark the place. With groceries in my car, I […]

When an event in your life strips you bare, there is no good intention or false ideology to hide behind. Enneagram 1 here. I have a great desire to “do the right thing”. I want others to also “do the right thing.” This isn’t bad in and of itself, but my tendency to be critical […]

To finish one long and hard day, only to know that the next day will be more of the same is defeating. We are all probably moving a little slower these days. Most days I feel like I’m moving through molasses. I’ve also found that one of my struggles with sheltering in place and social […]

Jesus did not call me to live the American dream, Jesus called me to pick up my cross and follow him. Once upon a time I would boldly pray for “God’s will to be done.” I believe part of my courage in praying these words was because I naively and arrogantly believed that my will aligned […]

Easter without Jane is not without hope. It’s our first holiday since Jane passed away. We miss her terribly and the ache of her absence is profound. Of all the holidays we could have experienced first without Jane, I’m so thankful it was Easter. We celebrate Christmas big at our house. Thanksgiving bears many standing […]

I’m aware that we are living our worst nightmare. It’s probably fair to say that it is most people’s worst fear. Losing a child. We lost our perfectly healthy, beautiful and full of life daughter. It wasn’t expected and it was completely out of our control. I believe that fear and anxiety stem from a […]

The importance of our story is less about the narrative and much more about the author. Who am I and why does my story matter? In a traditional sense, there is nothing special about me or my family. My name is Casey and I grew up in the loveliest village on the plains in Alabama. […]